Keep Marching with Suffs

Image: The marquee sign for the Music Box
theater advertising Suffs the musical against
a brilliant blue sky

The day after a massively disappointing Election Day, a mom-activist I know asked her followers, “What song are you listening to on repeat right now?” I replied, in honesty, Christopher Cross’ “Never Be the Same,” which is a terrible answer. Thankfully, something far more meaningful and inspirational quickly replaced the inane yacht rock tune: “Keep Marching” from the Broadway musical Suffs. I’m still singing it today.

I hadn’t heard of Suffs until another activist at an election postcard writing event raved about it. Suffs a musical about Alice Paul and the American suffragists working with her from the period around the 1920s up to passing the 19th Amendment, with a quick jump to the 1970s. I’m not a NY Times culture reporter like my niece, so I’m never going to describe the show in a way that does it justice at all!

Image: Cindy in front of the Music
Box theater wearing a "Keep
Marching" sash

I will only describe the result when I was lucky enough to see it in New York City two weeks ago. A packed audience full of women and a handful of men (including my husband) left the theater in tears from the emotional release of watching women failing and succeeding and failing and getting up again as they advocated with their bodies on the line. Two hours of laughter and tears culminated in the finale sung directly to us and I left smiling and crying, lifted by their inspiration. It was called, "Keep Marching."

The thought of our advocacy battles lasting so long that we may never know if we fail or prevail is wrenching to me. And yes, sometimes the gains feel too small and the losses too large. But I felt the cast was singing directly to me with the lyrics: 

"We did not end injustice and neither will you

but we made great strides and we know you will, too.

Make peace with your incomplete power and use it for good 

'cuz there's so much to do."

Image: My Suffs show poster
signed by some of the cast.

It brings me comfort and inspiration in the same way as Dr. Martin Luther King's words: "We shall overcome because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice."

This would have been an incredible show to see after voting our first female president into power. But it was even more needed after watching fellow Americans put Trump in office a second time and re-elect Missouri lawmakers who consistently work to strip away human rights and protections against gun violence. It seemed for a moment like it was an inevitable part of a history book, that we would put Kamala Harris in the oval office and help her bend the arc toward justice. I was swept up in it, too, and needed to hear the Suffs tell me, "Progress is possible, not guaranteed, it can only be made if we keep marching on."

We activists of this decade can now empathize deeply with the suffragists who experienced the thrilling win of the right to vote and the failure of the equal rights amendment. Some of them didn't live long enough to even see those things. I needed to be reminded that I am a part of a very, very long story. The show felt like a giant empathetic wake up call with women of the past holding us like mothers rocking children, saying, "We know, we know, we know...keep going, baby."

I’m going to leave a link to the cast singing it right at a Broadway event for Kamala Harris here. Here are the lyrics by Shaina Taub with no further comment except…keep marching.

Keep Marching

I won’t live to see the future that I fight for
Maybe no one gets to reach that perfect day
If the work is never over
Then how do you keep marching anyway?
Do you carry your banner as far as you can?
Rewriting the world with your imperfect pen?
‘Til the next stubborn girl picks it up in a picket line over and over again?
And you join in the chorus of centuries chanting to her

The path will be twisted and risky and slow
But keep marching, keep marching
Will you fail or prevail? Well, you may never know
But keep marching, keep marching
‘Cause your ancestors are all the proof you need
That progress is possible, not guaranteed
It will only be made if we keep marching, keep marching on

Keep marching on
Keep marching on

And remember every mother that you came from
Learned as much from our success as our mistakes
Don’t forget you’re merely one of many others
On the journey every generation makes
We did not end injustice and neither will you
But still, we made strides, so we know you can too
Make peace with our incomplete power and use it for good
‘Cause there’s so much to do

The gains will feel small and the losses too large
Keep marching, keep marching
You’ll rarely agree with whoever’s in charge
Keep marching, keep marching
‘Cause your ancestors are all the proof you need
That progress is possible, not guaranteed
It will only be made if we keep marching, keep marching on

Keep marching on

Yes, the world can be changed, ‘cause we’ve done it before
So keep marching, keep marching
We’re always behind you, so bang down the door
And keep marching, keep marching
And let history sound the alarm of how
The future demands that we fight for it now
It will only be ours if we keep marching, keep marching on

We must keep marching, marching, marching
We must keep marching, marching, marching
We must keep marching, marching, marching
We must keep marching, marching, marching
Come on, keep marching, marching, marching
Keep marching on

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Preparing to Advocate in Any Climate

Just a quick note from my couch on Thanksgiving Weekend. I shouldn’t be writing, but I had a thought this morning that hasn't left me all day. It's about activists who train in and practice relational advocacy: We were made for times like this.

Image: Pans of rolls
baked this morning

My youngest daughter is a freshman in college now, and she insisted on continuing our traditions of making bread and watching the live broadcast Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade in New York City. The setting in Manhattan today was a rainy morning that dumped a LOT of water on the main stage. When dancers stomped, you could see splashing. Even on TV, you could see confetti floating by in the gutters. It was a treacherous route for sure. We gasped as two Riverdancers wiped out at separate times and fell to the ground. Both dancers popped back up again, but it certainly wasn’t ideal conditions for dancers or marching bands. What would have happened if a tuba or bass drum player slipped?

Image: The Rockettes on my TV screen
in a precise triangle formation

In any Macy’s Thanksgiving parade, it’s just a matter of time before the Radio City Rockettes arrive. The rain continued to accumulate as they appeared in their shimmery red outfits and dance heels. I said aloud, “It’s okay, they got this. The Rockettes are made for this.” They are professionals. New York is their home turf. Since 1957, they’ve been staple of this parade. They prepare to dance in the freezing temperatures for the Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree Lighting. Sure enough, they high-kicked their way through the routine with precision and perfect smiles.

Image: The Rockettes on my TV screen
performing a kick line

I see a metaphor for activism here. I predict the political climate next year will be turbulent and unpredictable. Even those who voted for Trump can admit that the second Trump administration will contain surprises and disrupt order. In his first term, it was incredibly difficult to get through general business to maintain the country, much less make progress on issues like climate justice, gun violence, and poverty. I know it’s easy to look at stormy weather ahead and want to give up.

Image: Cindy with a team of St. Louis
RESULTS advocates after a senate meeting

But I take heart that my RESULTS advocacy partners and I practice the art of non-partisan, relational advocacy year-round. Like the Rockettes, we've been doing this for decades. We prepare so that we’re ready after any election season to work in a Congress controlled by Republicans or Democrats. We build personal relationships with our members of Congress and their aides because we never know who will lose an election or ascend to lead a committee critical to our issues.

Our progress is sometimes slowed, like when the tax package with a Child Tax Credit expansion failed in the Senate this year. Yet progress continues (the CTC was brought up positively by both parties during the election) and it's never stopped no matter who became president in any given year. We’ve suffered policy losses, but inspired each other to get up and continue just like the fallen Riverdancers.

There's no doubt that the next years will be an exhausting, marathon-like challenges. But I am thankful for my RESULTS advocacy community that works together to prepare for however the political winds may blow. To all the activists who ceaselessly work to build relationships with members and staff, take heart. We were made for times like this. Our time is now.

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How I'm Doing After Election Day 2024

Image: Election party cookies that say "It's about MAdam Time,"
"Kalama Harris 2024, and "We Are Not Going Back"
made by Nichole's Cupcakery

Hello from the day after the day after Election Day 2024. Yesterday was even harder than November 9, 2016 when the nation didn’t fully comprehend what a Trump victory would mean. Today, I’m feeling better and I’m back to work. I’m blogging about how my day went because I think it’s important to acknowledge how we handle life when the worst things happen despite our best activism efforts. Also, I want to offer some perspectives on the GOOD things that happened in my state of Missouri. In sharing all of this, I hope I can help some of you still feeling frozen to climbing back into the fight. Because we’re going to need everybody!

• I turned off my text notifications for everyone but my children. Apologies friends, but this is a vital part of the process when I’m sorting out my own feelings.
• I sent a text to my children because moms reach out when kids are hurting.

• I had chocolate chip cookies for breakfast. I’m an empty-nesting mom with no one to set an example for and no one to stop me.

• I emptied the dishwasher and loaded the dirty dishes from the sink. An act of love for my spouse and an investment in making the rest of the day nicer.

• I showered and swallowed some Advil for my aching back. A step towards physically feeling better.

• I dressed in comfy clothes and put on makeup, not for anyone else’s eyes, but just for the ritual of getting ready for something beyond that moment.

• I wordlessly hugged my husband when he got up because we didn’t need words to understand the pain and disappointment of the morning.

• I bought milk at the store and complimented the clerk on her hair, which was cut short since the last time I saw her. I don’t know her politics, but she’s part of my community and I made her morning better.

• I took a doggie from the local animal shelter on a date. “Corbin” was a stellar and well-behaved pupper. He gave me emotional support, and I gave him a break from living in a shelter. Since I had pre-planned to have the day off (knowing I'd need rest win or lose), the rest of the day was dedicated to loving and exercising Corbin before I had to take him back.

Image: Shelter dog Corbin doing his best to help me
with post-election day blues

As I did all those things, I thought about what I said to people before Election Day when they asked what I thought would happen. I told folks that if you care about enough issues, every election day always has both wins and losses. Yes, Harris lost the presidency and Trump will plunge us into another four years of chaos we can't afford when people are struggling in poverty today and scientists say we only have about 5-6 years before we do irreversible climate damage. 

Image: The results of the overturn on the Missouri
abortion ban with 51.7% of the vote

But farther down my ballot, we had some victories that are worth celebrating even with our heavy hearts. Here in Missouri, we reversed a state abortion ban, protecting abortion rights up to fetal viability with exceptions afterward to protect the life or health of the pregnant person.

Image: Cindy volunteering at a polling
location in the rain

The reversal of the abortion ban in a very red state is a testament to the power of citizen activism. Ordinary people worked hard collecting thousands of signatures to put the amendment on the ballot, got certified as notaries to authorize the signatures, knocked on doors, wrote postcards, wrote letters to the editor, and stood at polls in the rain encouraging voters to vote "yes" on Amendment 3. And it worked!

But that’s not all we did. We prevented Missouri from using court fees to pay law enforcement salary, which would have monetized our court system in a way that hurt people in poverty and racial minorities. We also raised the minimum wage to $13.75 an hour for 2025 and $15 an hour for 2026. All these measures passed by very slim majorities, but they passed!

So yes, really bad stuff happened yesterday. But the good things that happened are not meaningless. It means the world to someone feeling scared out of their mind about a harmful pregnancy. It means a lot to someone in poverty to have an extra couple of dollars per hour on their paycheck. These are tangible wins for people in my state that help remind me that activism and advocacy work! We’re going to need a lot more of this grassroots power in the next four years.

To wrap it up, I’ll share some inspiring words that resonated greatly with me from Venice Williams, the Executive Director at Fondy Food Center in Milwaukee. She answers the question, “What do we do now?” She wrote,

You are awakening to the

same country you fell asleep to.

The very same country.

Pull yourself together.

And,

when you see me,

do not ask me

“What do we do now?

How do we get through the next four years?”

Some of my Ancestors dealt with

at least 400 years of this

under worse conditions.

Continue to do the good work.

Continue to build bridges not walls.

Continue to lead with compassion.

Continue the demanding work of liberation for all.

Continue to dismantle broken systems, large and small.

Continue to set the best example for the children.

Continue to be a vessel of nourishing joy.

Continue right where you are.

Right where you live into your days.

Do so in the name of

The Creator who expects

nothing less from each of us.

And if you are not “continuing”

ALL of the above,

in community, partnership, collaboration?

What is it you have been doing?

What is it you are waiting for?

Now, since my youngest said that pushed her close to crying, here's a sweet picture of me and Corbin to make everyone happy.

Image: Corbin the shelter dog surprising Cindy
with a lick on the cheek.

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