Tuesday, May 7, 2024

Planning a Meaningful Mother’s Day for YOU

Image: Cynthia holding her book and wearing a shirt that
says,"Mothering is an Act of Revolutionary LOVE"

Did you know that Mother’s Day wasn’t originally about giving mom flowers and taking her to brunch? In fact, the commercial version of Mother’s Day was offensive to the creator of this national American holiday! After spending six years campaigning to create it, Anna Jarvis spent the last years of her life denouncing its commercialization and urging people to stop buying Mother’s Day flowers, cards and candies.

Where did Mother’s Day come from?

Image: Cynthia dressed as Wonder
Woman at a protest for women's rights
So, what is Mother’s Day supposed to be about? There were several factors that fed into our American Mother’s Day. All of them had to do with activism for the lives of children and creating a peaceful world for them to live in. Here are three notable milestones.

1858: Ann Jarvis, a young homemaker, organized “Mother’s Work Days” to improve the sanitation and avert deaths from insects and polluted water. Her groups later worked for unification after the Civil War. In 1868 Jarvis organized “Mothers’ Friendship Day,” when mothers gathered with former Union and Confederate soldiers to promote reconciliation.

1872: Julia Ward Howe - a poet, pacifist and women’s suffragist - established a special day for mothers and for peace after Franco-Prussian War.

1914: Ann Jarvis’s daughter, Anna, memorialized her mother’s life of activism with a campaign that succeeded when President Woodrow Wilson signed legislation making Mother’s Day a national holiday.

How should we celebrate Mother’s Day?

Image: A rubber duckie cake
As an activist, I’m proud to know this history and feel like I want to honor those early pioneers in mutual aid and peace activism. As a busy mom who highly values self-care, I also very much want a morning brunch with my family or maybe someone to make me a rubber duckie cake. But good news! There are 24 hours in Mother’s Day, so I suggest a balanced bit of everything that makes sure you honor yourself and the spirit of the day. 



Cynthia's Recipe for a Happy Mother's Day

  • Do something nice with your family: a brunch? a walk? a game?
  • Do something nice for yourself: a nap? a book? a bath?
  • Do something nice for your mom if she’s in your life: a text? a phone call? a visit?
  • Do something nice for the world: an online action? a phone call to Congress? a letter to the editor?

You likely have ideas on the first three, but in case you need inspiration for the last one, here are some links on issues important to moms that will lead you to some quick, but meaningful, actions with non-partisan advocacy groups. You don't have to do all of them at once! I'm just giving you some choices. They'll still be there on Monday, too!


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Saturday, May 4, 2024

2024 Mother's Day Gift Guide for Mom Activists

Image: Cynthia smiling in front of the U.S. Capitol 
wearing a "Big Mom Energy" t-shirt from MomsRising

Mother’s Day is coming up fast on Sunday, May 12. Do you have a mother or a mom-friend who thinks flowers are just okay, but she’d really prefer a cleaner planet, paid family leave, gunsense policies, health care access for all children, or reproductive rights? Here’s a quick list of ideas for presents for activist moms in 2024. IN A RUSH?? Scroll down for gift suggestions that can get there quickly, especially if you have Amazon Prime.

T-shirts and journals from MomsRising

Image: Woman wearing a tshirt saying "Raising
our children, Raising our voices"

MomsRising.org is an on-the-ground and online grassroots organization of more than a million people who are working to achieve economic security for all moms, women, and families in the United States. They’re a fantastic group for beginning advocates who like to take regular on-line actions on a variety of mom-related issues. They also have some of the cutest mom-advocate merchandise around! I’m especially fond of my “Big Mom Energy” shirt and floral “Raising Our Children Raising Our Voices” shirt. They also have a “Mom Power Planner” journal for her to keep all her plans and schemes for the future! Visit their store here.

Image: Hands holding a notebook that says
"Mom Power Planner"

T-shirt, wine glasses, or journal from Moms Demand Action


Image: The classic red Moms Demand
t-shirt in a maternity size
Is your mom committed to ending gun violence in America? Then she may appreciate something from Moms Demand Action. Aside from the iconic red Moms Demand shirt, two of my favorite things in their store right now are a “You messed with the wrong mom” scoop neck t-shirt (on sale now for $21 down from $35) and the “Be Nice” notebook with a favorite quote from Dawn Lafferty Hochsprung, the principal of Sandy Hook Elementary School, that says, “Be nice to each other, it’s really all that matters.” They also have stemless wine glasses with the Moms Demand logo perfect for toasting gun sense policy victories! Visit their store here.

By the way, the red t-shirt comes in MATERNITY SIZING! I've never seen an organization have maternity logo t-shirts before and I love it!!!

Image: Woman wearing t-shirt saying "You
messed with the wrong mom."

Apron from Mothers Out Front

Warning: Do not buy this unless your mom genuinely loves to cook or this could go badly if she thinks you just want her to cook for you.

Mothers Out Front is an organization of volunteers coming together climate issues and racial justice. One of the most practical items in their store is a blue Activist Adjustable Kitchen Apron. Visit their store here.

Image: Woman wearing a blue apron with 
the Mothers Out Front logo

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Advocacy How-To Books

Image: Cover art for "From Changing
Diapers to Changing the World"

If a mom would like to build her advocacy skills to create the world she wants to live in, here are two advocacy books that can be an antidote to political hopelessness. Both can give her skills to apply to any social justice issue she is passionate about. If you have Amazon prime, you can have them shipped for free quickly!

The first one (full disclosure…I wrote it) speaks especially to moms who need a boost stepping into their own maternal power or want to become more powerful by learning new advocacy skills. From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates and How to Get Started is full of inspirational stories and step-by-step instructions to take actions on any of her favorite issues. You can get an autographed copy from my website inscribed with her name in it. Or, it’s available on Amazon where the ebook price is 50% on sale through May 15 and the hardcover version is 54% on sale while supplies last. 

Image: Cover art for "Reclaiming
Our Democracy"
My next recommendation is the new 2024 version of Sam Daley-Harris’ Reclaiming Our Democracy. Sam is especially great at empowering those feeling hopeless about the state of politics and democracy in American today. He educates folks about transformational advocacy that can have a profound impact on both members of Congress and the volunteers who lobby them!






Donation gifts from Save the Children

Image: Boy playing soccer barefoot
wearing a Uganda jersey. Picture 
from savethechildren.org
Gifts of charity donations can always be printed out and presented immediately! 

Save the Children is a direct service charity that works in over 100 countries doing whatever it takes — every day and in times of crisis — to give children a healthy start in life, the opportunity to learn, and protection from harm. At their online gift catalog, you can make a donation to buy certain things to help the children they serve. For instance, you can donate $15 for a soccer ball or $20 for a clean water kit. Visit the gift catalog here.








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Sunday, March 3, 2024

Affordable Places For Activists to Stay in Washington DC

Image: Cynthia pulling a suitcase through Union Station in Washington D.C.

NOTE: This blog was posted March 2023, so prices may rise over time.

Washington D.C. is THE place to be when it comes to advocacy on a national level. This is where our decision makers work and where professional lobbyists and volunteer advocates flock to learn together and inspire each other. Unfortunately, since lobbying is big business, D.C. is an expensive place to stay. I once attended an anti-poverty conference where the main conference hotel was about $600 per night! Yikes! (I did not stay there.)

One of the hardest things about being an activist is figuring out a place to stay in D.C. while you lobby, protest, or attend conferences without breaking the bank. Sometimes groups I volunteer with will pay for lodging, but not every organization is that well funded. Here is a list of my favorite places I’ve found to be clean, convenient, and affordable when I stay in Washington D.C. and have to pay my own way. Don't forget, it's a great idea to invite a friend to stay with you and split the cost because advocacy is always more fun with friends!

NOTE: I know some of these prices are still going to seem pretty high to folks used to paying $130 for a Homewood Suites in middle America, but the Capitol Hill area is prime hotel real estate and I’d be wary of a $130 D.C. hotel. Besides, when I tried the Homewood Suites by the Convention Center in D.C., we had multiple problems with cleanliness, excessive street noise, a faulty safe that wouldn’t release our valuables, and a super loud room fridge! 

Yotel DC (about $200-250 per night)


Image: A hotel room with two queen beds and 
green lights around the mirror and TV set.
415 New Jersey Avenue, NW, Washington DC 20001 

Yotel is a popular place for advocacy organizations to hold small conferences of 100 people or so. It’s a 10-minute walk to the Russell Senate Building on Capitol Hill. It’s very clean with futuristic styling. Beds incline with a touch of a button to become couches if you’d like more room during the day. 

I enjoy changing the room’s mood lighting to the brand color of the organization for the conference I’m attending. In this picture, I’ve changed the Yotel branded purple to Shot@Life green since that was the conference I was attending. Amenities include free coffee on every floor and a rooftop pool in the summer. The hotel bar has great, but pricey cocktails. If you’re saving money on that, too, you can visit Kogod Liquors next door. A full FedEx business center and Starbucks are in the Hyatt across the street. If you join their rewards program, you can get a little cash back on your room.

Hotel Hive (about $180-$250 per night) 

Image: Cynthia with a towel on her head pointing to
the words "WORK HARD. TRAVEL HARDER."
on the wall.

2224 F St NW, Washington, DC 20037 

Hotel Hive is a micro-hotel. The rooms are tiny, but the vibes are fun, the rooms are very clean, and the price is right. Some rooms only have one twin bed. The old historic building is irregular, so every room is a little different in size and shape. Rooms have funny or positive statements painted on the walls in big block letters. Everything is bee themed. Their “buzz” room label is a cutesy way of saying that they are potentially noisy, located above or below the bar or pizza shop. The website says, “What they may not offer in views or silence they make up for in value.” I’ve seen a buzz twin room as low as $157/night ($181 with taxes and fees).

It has a rooftop bar and yummy flatbread style pizza in the pizza shop. It’s 2.7 miles from Capitol Hill, which is about a 12 minute drive. 

AirBnB (varies widely) 

If I have to do an extended stay in DC, I enjoy reserving an AirBnB apartment because they come with kitchens (so I can eat healthier for less money) and laundry (so I don’t have to pack as much). The cost can vary widely, but I’m usually able to find something safe, clean, and within a short walk to Capitol Hill for about $200-250 per night, inclusive of fees and taxes. I like to get units with fold-out sofas, so I can invite another volunteer to join me and share cost while having their own space, unlike a hotel room, which would have us in the same room. 

Here are two listings that I especially enjoyed. In both cases, the owners live upstairs from the basement, so they are on the property in case anything goes wrong. They both look exactly like their pictures in the listing.

Image: Convenience store
Capitol Hill King 1 Bedroom Apt + Free Parking

Comfortable, spacious, and very near the Senate buildings. This one is my favorite because of the location. I got complimented on the outside flowers every day because people passing by would think I was the owner! Next to a convenience store with affordable and delicious made to order sandwiches. Around the corner is a street with a pub, a Vietnamese pho restaurant, a barber, and a nail salon.


Capitol Hill Charm ~ Modern Refinement

Image: Queen sized bed with 
attractive bedding
Super cute decor. It’s in a neighborhood with lots of parents out and about with children and dogs after school going by the neighborhood parks. It’s a 10-minute walk away from a fantastic Jamaican restaurant called Jerk at Nite/District Jerk. Be advised the fold down couch only fits shorter folks, so keep that in mind if you're inviting a roomie!



Friends Place on Capitol Hill ($50 per night)

Image: Bunk beds at Friends Place 
515 East Capitol Street, SE, Washington, DC 20003 

If you have three or more in your party and don’t mind a summer camp sort of vibe, Friends Place is a fantastic resource. Run by the Friends Coalition on National Legislation (FCNL), an advocacy group started by the Quakers, Friends Place is a Quaker learning center and a guesthouse open to activists in town to take action on issues aligning with their missions to advance peace, justice, and environmental stewardship.

For just $50 per person, Friends Place has rooms with a handful of bunk beds in each of them. Each room has a digital lock on and a private bathroom. Guests have access to communal living spaces and kitchenettes on each floor. You can even rent out their meeting spaces. There are many stairs, but I know at least one room is ADA accessible. 

My favorite thing about Friends Place is that it’s only a 2-minute walk to the Senate buildings, so you’re pretty much on Capitol Hill. You can easily walk to Union Station. There are little convenience stores and restaurants nearby.

Because of the bunk beds and shared spaces, Friends Place is very popular with student group trips, so book early! Check out a video walk through of Friends Place on YouTube.


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Sunday, January 28, 2024

Sharing About Giving: Let Your Light Shine

“Hi! I need your help…”

A friend reached out to me last year asking me to take part in her client’s social media campaign to share acts of kindness of social media. An organization called Alight used the hashtag of #AlightChainReaction to inspire good works from individuals throughout the 2023 winter holiday season. Alight is a global humanitarian organization dedicated to providing support and resources for over 4 million people displaced by conflict, exclusion, and climate change.

Image: Cindy with a stuffed Pikachu pokemon
donated to Toys for Tots
What started out as a favor turned out to be a fascinating social experiment for me. As an author and speaker with a brand about advocacy and helping others, it’s common for me to post about acts of advocacy actions. Yet I rarely post about local, personal volunteering. Maybe part of me feels like it’s bragging to say “look what a good person I am” when I know I’m full of little foibles and bigger flaws. Reactions to my posts on #AlightChainReaction turned made me rethink that attitude. I quickly lost those awkward feelings when I my friends started asking where they could join in or reporting that they, too, took the same action because of my post.

Image: Cindy in front of a Red Cross van
A great example was my post about giving blood. Donating blood to the Red Cross is just something my mom (a nurse) taught me to do when I became an adult. But there’s a physical limit to the amount of blood one person can give! Once I give my pint, that’s all I can do for the next 8 weeks. So, when I saw a couple of friends jump into the comment section of the post right away, saying they made appointments, I thought, “Wow! That’s 3X what I could do alone!”


Image: Cindy's hand with wrapped gifts
Another fun action was gift wrapping presents for kids experiencing homelessness at a pop up wrapping station in a mall. I stopped by and gave an hour of my time doing that fun task, but my schedule didn’t allow me to sign up for another shift. I was thrilled when I got a text of a family member who loves wrapping gifts and had the spare time!

Image: A box of snacks with a note saying,
"THANK YOU for delivering our packages!
Please help yourself to a snack"
The last one I’ll mention is the snack box for delivery people. I got the idea off of social media during COVID-19 isolation in 2020 to make a box of snacks and water for folks delivering packages to my door. They work very hard during the holidays to make sure gifts get delivered on time. It brings a smile to my face to see USPS and UPS drivers walking away from my door with water, granola, or chips. I liked the enthusiastic responses I received when I posted about it, but I am genuinely touched when I visit my friends that commented and see that they’ve made their own similar boxes!

This is proof enough to me a chain reaction of kindness is possible. I’m grateful to Alight for teaching me that sharing about caring can spread kind actions throughout our community.

How appropriate that after the campaign ended, the scripture assigned to me to read at church was from the book of Mark when Jesus said to them, “Is a lamp brought in to be put under the bushel basket, or under the bed, and not on the lampstand? For there is nothing hidden, except to be disclosed; nor is anything secret, except to come to light.” If no one can see your light, it can’t spread around and inspire others to have their own experiences like it. Which is to say - as the children’s song puts it best- “Let your little light shine!”

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